When it comes to dating and relationships, we need passion to keep things alive and moving forward. Without the passion, the relationship becomes stale and stagnant and eventually dies. The same can be said about people in general. If we aren’t pushing ourselves to be the best we can be, we become content with life and give up trying and in reality, we stop living.
But as great as passion is, having too much passion can destroy a relationship. If one person cares too much about something, it can get to a point where it interferes with the relationship.
A Failed Relationship Because of Too Much Passion
I dated a girl once for a few months. I met her on Plenty of Fish and we had a connection from the start. That connection carried through to meeting in person as well. But after a few dates, it became apparent that she was too passionate for me, and I would venture most people.
Her passion was with rescue animals. When someone would no longer want a cat, or dog, or other pet, they typically bring them to a shelter. The shelter cannot handle all of these animals, so they find foster homes for them.
A foster home is a person that volunteers to take in a pet and care for it until someone comes along that wants to adopt the pet. Understand that I think this is a great thing. But you have to draw the line.
The girl I was dating was so passionate about helping rescue animals that it interfered with our relationship. On the weekends, we had to stay local so she could run home every 2 hours and check on the animals and feed them/take them out to go the bathroom.
Then there was the constant running back and forth the shelter to get more animals and take the ones that were adopted. Again, I think that volunteering in this way is a great thing, but she was more passionate about helping the animals than she was about forming a relationship with me.
Maybe this was because she wasn’t that interested in me or some other issue. The point is, no one, whether you are a man or a woman, wants to play second fiddle to something else when it comes to a relationship.
Realize that there are times, many times in a relationship when other commitments interfere. It is part of life. But it becomes a problem when those commitments never end or are always more important than the other person.
Don’t Give Up Your Passion
Don’t mistake this post as telling you that you can’t be passionate about anything other than your spouse. That is not what I am saying whatsoever. What I am saying is that you need to take your spouse’s needs into account if you want the relationship to work. You can still have passions in life outside of your relationship (and you should in fact), you just need to make sure that the passion doesn’t destroy your relationship because it is more important than the person you are with.