Stop playing the dating game and check out these best relationship books for 2017 for a stronger, more loving relationship
I’ve been writing about relationships and dating for more than three years and have seen my share of relationship books. I can tell you that reading many have been about as painful as a broken heart!
I mean, there are a lot of books about relationships and dating that are just plain awful, written by some guy with a five-step plan to ‘conquer’ any woman.
I’ve come across a good many books that offer some great advice and I love sharing these finds with readers. That’s why this annual post of best relationship books is always my favorite.
Not every book in the list will be something you need to read but pick out a few in each category. I’ve included the link to Amazon for each book so you can click through and read the full description. I don’t say this often but give a couple of these books a chance and I GUARANTEE you will come through a better person ready to find a partner and find love.
Best Relationship Books for Finding a Partner
It all starts here. Dating is tough but it helps to understand what other people are looking for and how to appeal to them. It’s not about playing a game but about understanding how to be the person your potential mate needs. These top relationship books will help you understand those needs and desires…and even better understand your own needs.
Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl – A Woman’s Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship by Sherry Argov
So this one gets a little cynical at times but it’s a real look at what men want and how to get what you want in the relationship. The book has over 1,800 reviews, almost 1,300 of which are five stars which is pretty rare for Amazon books. Sherry has written for over 50 magazines and has appeared on The View, The Today Show and several news channels.
Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love Deserve by Matthew Hussey
It’s always good getting more than one perspective when you’re trying to figure out the opposite sex, especially when your only perspective comes from people of your same sex. Whether you’re a guy or a gal, try reading a relationship book written by someone of the opposite sex for another point of view.
Get the Guy is an Amazon bestseller by Matthew Hussey, star of the dating reality show Ready for Love. It’s a fun guide from dating to building a better relationship and even how to spice things up in the bedroom.
For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn
Ladies…skip ahead or close your eyes for a second. Guys, I’ve been married for over seven years and still have times when I just can’t figure my wife out. You’ll never fully understand women but this book and others by the authors are some of the best I’ve ever read about getting inside the head of a woman. Believe me, it goes way beyond knowing that they don’t really mean “nothing” when that’s what they say.
Do yourself a favor and stop getting so frustrated. Check out this book or a few others on what women are thinking and what they want. Don’t go into it as a way to become a ‘mind reader’ or to control women but just as a way to better understand their needs and emotions.
2017 Top Relationship Books to Strengthen Your Relationship
Once you’ve found that special someone, wouldn’t it be nice to keep them? Not everyone you meet is going to be the one and no relationship is perfect but that doesn’t mean you should just sit back and let things happen as they may. Keeping and taking a relationship to the next level can be just as difficult as starting one.
Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sue Johnson
The conversations in the book come from one of the most effective methods of couples’ therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy. The idea is that you can create emotional bonds through critical conversations you need to have at different points in the relationship. The book walks you through the conversations, how to start them and how to make sure you get the most out of each to create that unbreakable relationship.
Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires, The Respect He Desperately Needs by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
A lot of other relationship books get complicated, trying to decipher every emotion in a relationship. This one is amazing in its simplicity, helping you to understand the single need a man or woman must receive in a successful relationship. And it’s true, so much of our emotions are tied up in one need that knowing how to satisfy it can lead to a lifelong connection.
Best Relationship Books for Better Communication This Year
My favorite quote from The Simpsons is when Marge is talking about problems in Apu and Manjula’s marriage. Homer responds, “Everyone’s marriage is falling apart. You see the problem is communication, too much communication.”
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman
This could be the most widely-read and popular relationship book of all-time with millions sold. The different languages include: affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch and are crucial to demonstrating your love to a partner. It’s not just some theory book but offers a great guide on how to use the love languages.
One Bed, One Bank Account: Better Conversations on Money and Marriage by Derek and Carrie Olsen
Money is the number one cause for relationship problems and arguing. Most people struggle enough just managing their own money, let alone trying to manage money as a couple and that causes big problems in relationships. Derek and Carrie help you improve your communication around finances and get both you and your partner on the same page about money.
Whether you are already struggling with your money in a relationship or you haven’t gotten to the conversation, this book will help keep money from destroying an otherwise happy relationship.
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus: The Practical Guide for Improving Communication in a Relationship by John Gray
I hate gender roles! The idea that men and women are born differently and come from different ‘worlds’. There’s a lot of truth to the idea though and Dr. Gray’s book is one of the best in understanding how our emotions, needs and perspective differ.
Two of My Favorite Relationship Books for Everyone
These two relationship books didn’t really fit in another category but I really wanted to include them. They’re fun and entertaining besides being great reads about relationships.
Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari
Aziz is hilarious and one of the few comedians that is just as funny in the written form as is his live standup. It’s not just fun and games though, Aziz teamed up with NYU sociologist Eric Klineberg for a massive project to understand dating and relationships in the 21st century.
Love Warrior by Glennon Melton
They say some of the best lessons come from our failures and misfortunes. The problem is that most relationship book authors like to pretend they’re perfect and have the perfect answer. This 2016 Oprah Book Club recommendation is a painful but extremely enlightening look into the life of the author from her story of addiction, her husband’s infidelity and her journey of self-discovery that led to a richer life. Many of the problems in your relationship are not going to be your fault but you’ll have to deal with them anyway.
The best relationship books will help you understand your partner’s perspective rather than ‘play the game’. These books on love and life will not only help you understand how to communicate and build a stronger relationship but will also help you understand your own needs. Read them with your partner as a way to begin the conversation and build that unbreakable bond.