Look, it’s 2015 so the stigma related to online dating should be over and done with. This is how people meet now. Between 2005 and 2012, 35% of people met online. Today, this number is has crossed the 40% threshold. So what does this mean for you? It means you need to try online dating before you dismiss it.
I know we all have our doubts about things in life. Take me for example. For years I refused to listen to Pandora. Why do I need that when I have a playlist of my own music and the radio? But then I tried it. And boy do I wish I had done so years earlier!
I have discovered more great new music in a few months on Pandora than I had in the past few years listening to the radio. Online dating is the same thing. You may have met a few people here and there when going out for the night, but you can meet so many more great people online. In fact, here are 10 great reasons to try online dating, just in case I haven’t swayed you yet.
10 Reasons You Need To Try Online Dating At Least Once
1. Meet More New People
I know this might not sound on the surface to be anything special, but it really is. There are a lot of people out there and odds are if you keep going to the same places to hang out and even to shop and eat, you are probably running into the same people over and over again. Think of all of the people in your town that simply use another grocery store to shop!
For example, I met a great woman online who literally lived 2 streets away from me. We never met before because we shopped at different grocery stores and went to different gyms. We even went for runs in different parks.
The point is, there are tons of people to meet and by joining an online dating site, you have the chance to meet many people you never met before.
2. Meet People Anytime, Anywhere
The next great thing about online dating is how easy it is to meet people. You can do so before work, on your lunch break, or even when you are getting ready for bed. All you have to do is log into your account and start searching or emailing. That’s it.
I’ll use my experience again as examples. (If you think I have a good number of examples, it’s because I tried a ton of different dating sites.) When I was in grad school, I had almost zero free time. I worked full-time during the day and then went to class for a few hours 2 nights a week. Most of the other nights were spent studying. I was able to meet new women before class started. I would grab a seat and check my account. It made meeting women easier.
In addition to this, when I met my wife, we were emailing when I was traveling for business. I was in another state and emailing her, getting to know her better.
With online dating, you suddenly have the time to meet new people and talk to them. You aren’t restricted by time or location.
3. Easier To Get To Know Someone
This point is great for most, but especially true for those reading this that has a tough time meeting new people. I’m talking to the shy and reserved ones out there. When meeting people through online dating, you have the ability to edit what you are going to say to someone. And even better, you can wait a little bit to think things over.
When you are in a conversation with someone else, you have to be ready to keep the conversation going. Not so with online dating. You can receive an email and hold off on replying for a few hours to make sure you say what you want to say.
On top of this, you have some of their back story in their profile. You have talking points. This makes it much easier to strike up a conversation and keep it going. Nothing is more stressful than approaching a woman and having nothing to talk about.
4. Easier To Reject Someone
On the flip side, it is easier to reject someone too. When rejecting them, you have two options – ignore them or respond. Personally, I think not responding is rude, unless the site doesn’t allow you to respond to them with a “no thanks” or “not interested”. Even if you have zero interest, it is still nice to let them know so that they can move on. It’s not fun waiting patiently for a response and to have that hope slowly fade as the days pass.
Just make sure you keep it short and be polite. Everyone is looking for love and we all have different tastes. So if they don’t interest you, then tell them so and you both can move on.
5. You Can Remain Anonymous
Another great feature and reason to try online dating is that you can remain anonymous. This is done by simply creating a good username that isn’t your name (pretty simple) and not uploading a picture. Now, understand that studies show those who put up a picture tend to get more interest. But this doesn’t mean you have to put your picture up. (Even better, some sites make your picture available to others once you talk with them for a certain amount of time.)
So why would you want to stay anonymous? Some professions are a good reason. I have some friends who are teachers. They don’t want to meet Johnny’s mom at parent/teacher night only to realize they were talking online a few months earlier.
6. Cheaper In The Long Run
Over the long term, online dating is cheaper than going out. For example, eHarmony costs $30/month for a basic membership. You might think this is high, but when you think about the costs of going out for a night every week to the bar to meet someone, that adds up quickly. Drinks, clothes, transportation, etc. can easily put you over $30 in just the first night out. And what are your odds of meeting someone in that one night?
You can check out my online dating chart to see the monthly costs of various dating sites to help you decide which on is right for you.
7. You Can Find What You Are Really Looking For
When you do the online dating thing, you have the chance to really find what you are looking for. Again, take me as a perfect example. I failed miserably on many first dates. I had my list of must-haves in a woman. After failing for the umpteenth time, I changed my approach.
No longer was I looking for women who met my list of requirements. Instead, I dated any woman that I was interested in and who was interested in me. Did I have some bad dates? Sure thing. But I learned so much about myself and what I really want in someone else.
It’s easier to do this when you date online because you can go out on a lot more dates than if you just hit the bars to meet people.
8. Safer Than Meeting At The Bar
Another great reason to try online dating is because it is safer than meeting someone in the bar. When you meet in the bar, you have no idea if the person is going to follow you home. With online dating, you can better vet a person online before ever meeting them.
In addition to this, many sites now have added layers of security too. They have you verify who you are, so that when you start talking with someone, you can have confidence that they really are who they say they are.
9. Easy To Make A Great First Impression
Making a great first impression is all within your control with online dating. If you take the time to put together a thoughtful profile and include some great pictures, you will easily stand out from the crowd.
Many people just throw something up in 5 minutes and then get mad at not meeting anyone. Online dating is a numbers game. If you put in the time to craft a great profile and put some thought into your pictures, your odds of success are much higher.
10. You Can Get Help With Finding Someone Special
Finally, another great thing about online dating is the help they give you. Most all of the sites will send you matches based on your interests. No longer is it just you looking for a partner, but you have a trusted source to help you out. And no offense to your wingman or wingwoman, but the online dating sites are better at helping you find a match than they are.
But if you are still inclined to have your friends help, invite them over one night as you browse through matches together.
So there you have just 10 reasons why you need to try online dating. Personally, I found success with online dating. Not only did I find my wife, but before that, I figured out a lot about myself and what I was looking for and needed in a partner.
Yes I failed numerous times. In fact, I’m not even sure how many first dates I did go on. It has to be at least 30 though. But I kept a positive attitude about the process and eventually found success. You can too, you just have to take the first step and sign up.
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