I was the typical shy guy and thought I’d never find love until I found online dating and learned how to make a relationship work
My name is Don and I live in Philly with my wife who I met through online dating. I was a “late-bloomer” in high school. In fact, I didn’t start really dating until college! In my sophomore year, I met a great girl and we dated for close to two years. I ended things because she lived about five hours from me and I wanted to move back to my hometown area while she wanted to stay in her hometown.
From there, I casually dated until I met another great girl through a job and we dated for almost four years. Things were moving towards marriage and I just wasn’t ready to settle down and have kids yet.
My Online Dating Experience
Since I was never one to pick up girls at the bar, I decided to try online dating. I started dating through eHarmony since it seemed like a legit dating site to find a long-term relationship. I was new to the idea and had no clue about online dating. I was lost at first and only met a few girls. Of the handful of girls I talked with online, I went on maybe five dates. None materialized into anything more than a date or two.
I then tried Match thinking that things would be different there, but I still wasn’t sure how to reach out to people online. I talked to a few girls through the dating site, but never went on a date.
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Not knowing where to turn, a friend told be about JDate, which is a Jewish online dating site (I’m not Jewish). I ended up meeting a girl through this site. We dated for close to 6 months for… a very interesting relationship. She was the “crazy one” (every guy has dated one) that drained me of everything I had. When we broke up, I was actually relived and happy.
I chose to be single for a few months after that and then decided to try something new….a matchmaker! It was an interesting process. I started dating a girl which lasted three months. We were just too different. As the matchmaker dating began to fizzle out, I signed back up for eHarmony again and Plenty of Fish for the first time.
I was determined to make online dating work for me!
This time around on eHarmony I was talking to many more girls and going out on a handful of dates, but never met “the one”. On Plenty of Fish, I was doing great – talking to many girls and going out on a good number of dates. I ended up meeting a great girl on the Plenty of Fish dating site, but she wasn’t ready for a long-term commitment. After that short relationship ended, I decided to again take some time off from online dating.
Once the hurt from my latest failed relationship ended, I was at a cross-road in my life. Either I was going to say “screw it” and just live my life and accept what happens or I was going to try online dating one last time. I scanned Match for girls that I had an interest in. I said that if I found at least eight girls to message, I would sign up. I found seven and signed up anyway but none responded to my emails.
Then out of the blue a girl that I didn’t email, emailed me. I responded and three years later we are happily married.
One of the biggest things I learned in all this was that it wasn’t the online dating sites but how I was using them. Check out the reviews on each site to see special features and how to use each.
I realized that you can’t set a timetable for meeting someone, even with the help of internet dating. Everything just has to work out perfectly, which it does many times. I tried and failed multiple times at online dating, but I kept at it and found someone.
Why I Created This Internet Dating and Relationships Blog
Ok, so it’s a long story but I learned so much about dating online and relationships. I’m not a love guru and have probably made more dating mistakes than most but I learned from every one of them.
In many of my past relationships, I was an idiot. I don’t regret being an idiot because there was no way for me to realize I was one. I have grown immensely from my first relationship to my current one. I am still growing and always will. I created this site to help others find love whether through online dating or any way you can. It’s a difficult process with many setbacks and roadblocks and can be excruciatingly frustrating.
But you have to push through if you are ever going to find love. After all, once you are in a relationship, the work isn’t over. A relationship is work. And there will be setbacks and roadblocks there as well for you to overcome.
If you’ve tried online dating and are close to giving up on finding love hear this, I’ve been there!. I was about to give up on the whole internet dating scene when I met the love of my life. Has anyone been on more dating sites and messaged more people than me? I doubt it! I can’t guarantee you that it will happen quickly, but if you stay positive and keep looking, you will find love.
I’ve learned a lot about online dating and the dating world during my journey. I learned what worked, what didn’t work and a few things that led to some crazy stories. I had no clue at first but learned how to make dating sites work through trial and error. This blog is so you don’t have to make those errors and can go straight to finding love.
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I don’t know if I could have done it without online dating and if you haven’t tried it yet, it will help you grow and find what your want in a relationship even if you don’t find true love. Lastly, please understand that the intent of this blog is to help you find love, not a one-night stand or hook-up. If you are looking for something other than a long-term relationship, I doubt you will find any useful information here.